Our practice is somewhat like the Sufi or Fourth Way of practice in that we have a teacher and we put our heads together and interact with out teacher. 
 
In a Sufi story the teacher asks his students why they are there.  The different answers each get shot down with a different response.  Basically, the teacher was saying that the students are not there for the right reason, which is spiritual enlightenment.  
 
Doen recalls that in his training, some of his fellow spiritual practitioners were competitive, not seeking spiritual enlightenment.
 
Dave Daniels used to ask "What are your sexual desires compared to what we exhibit to the world?  That's the real you."  
 
Gurdjieff says the hardest attachment to give up is that to suffering.
 
Doen asked class "What part of you do you feel you can't bring to your practice that you'd like to?
 
There are positive points to what we perceive as our weaknesses.
 
Doen: Have an I.  Be yourself.  The part of you that accepts all the "I"s is the home-leaver.